All Hearts will be broken

All hearts will be broken in our evolutionary walk toward wholeness. The shattering of our hearts is the breaking open to allow for greater depth of experience and feeling. Unfortunately when it occurs in an unsupported way the pain is sometimes greater than our ability to move through it...the shattering destroys pieces of us and in our attempt to reclaim those pieces we get stuck in the story of our pain.

The story replaces the pieces and becomes who we are; we begin to live a compensated life creating not from our joy but from our pain. This continues the pain and supports the compensations making it impossible for us to reclaim our wholeness.

 Our mission is to acknowledge the pain, heal the pain, find the gift in the pain and progress forward with a more open heart, a wiser heart even more capable of loving and serving ourselves and others.

 With a broken heart we do many things. Our mind searches for ways to survive the pain. We begin to create compensated patterns. What have you done with your pain? Did you learn to eat to fill the emptiness, did you learn to flirt to see some level of self worth; did you learn to fight to keep people at a distance so as to avoid future pain. Whatever your compensation is the outcome is always the same. You create a life that is inauthentic. You then begin to believe that compensation to be who you are. You defend it, justify it, and expand it to be even more of who you are not. Eventually you collapse into despair and depression from the falseness, which your life has become. Often times this is mistaken for a mid-life crises.

My dear friend Jim Naccaratto states it like this:

We avoid the reality of our dysfunction

We deny the impact it has on our lives

And

We create an alter reality and live in it as if it is real

Our soul will only tolerate this behavior for so long because our soul is here for one reason only, to experience the wholeness of being human. It is here for growth and spiritual evolution. Most importantly we are here to evolve so that we can express love and experience love in a healthy way.

Nothing healthy can ever grow from a lie and unfortunately there is nothing in traditional society that supports you in being the truth of who you are. From our parent's image of us, which we spend our lives either trying to live into, or trying to escape from to the ads that sell us our clothes or our jobs that define who we are. You see, when we buy into the image or fight the image we perpetuate the dysfunction and the illusion of who we are not. When dysfunction is promoted as the ideal it perpetuates itself. Physical, Spiritual and Emotional dysfunction is what robs us of our lives. Very much like a cancer it can be there for years before we realize that is has destroyed our core. We are left depressed, exhausted, uncertain and confused. Many years ago I wrote an insert for our paper titled:

I'll be happy when

 "Life is a funny thing.  When you are young, time drags on.  Each birthday takes forever to come, but you know when you finally hit the two digit figures, your life will change.  However, you're still not a teenager- that takes three more years.

  Then you just need your driver's license and that will be it - the big-ticket item to independence.  But no... you still have to clean your room

 But wait until your eighteen, that'll be it, you'll be legally independent.  Perhaps you choose college, but wait ... you still have to go to those classes.  Perhaps you choose marriage, but wait now you have to take care of two people and the bills... Perhaps you choose to work.  But wait, now your "have to" days are even longer than school days.  You get paid, but you also get more responsibility and more bills.  But wait ...

 Once we can afford a home,
     Once the kids are grown,
   Once I get a job,
 
Once we can afford a car,
     Once the house is paid for,
   Once I pay off the car
 
Once we have a baby,
     Once I get my degree,
   Once I retire ...

Then...

I'll be happy,

Then

I'll relax,

Then

I'll enjoy life.

Life is all these things.  It is an experience of a natural orderly, at times chaotic, progression.  If you do not enjoy the process, then you'll never be happy, you'll never relax and you'll never enjoy Life."

So folks here we are and are we happy yet? If not please continue to read and become very committed to your authentic self. We must reclaim those pieces that we threw away because they did not fit someone else's image of who we 'should' be. Sometimes these pieces are beaten out of us either emotionally or physically Sometimes they are slowly whiddled away as we learn that to be accepted and survive we must change who we are. Sometimes we simply do not have a voice with which to speak them. As you begin this evolutionary walk toward your authentic self we will slowly reclaim your voice, we will slowly reclaim your body and your health and we will slowly polish the soulful part of you so that it may shine with the brilliance with which it was intended. Also in our spiritual journey we will invite you to create a very intimate relationship with a power greater than yourself. You may call it what you will but 'My' illusion is that this connection is vital for those parts of you, which are lost to regain their wholeness.

 The power, which made us, maintains us and keeps us striving for wholeness is present each and every day. We must harness that power to heal physically spiritually and emotionally and to know ourselves in an intimate way. To enhance your exploration join us at www.sistersupport.com and choose the way that is most congruent for you. Health and vitality for your physical body, Personal Coaching and on-line retreats for your emotional body and our farm retreats to create a lifestyle which you can then take home for the healing and support of your entire being. 

Go well and enjoy your blessings

Kathleen